Would you ever marry Darth Vader?

Let’s talk about villains.

When you think of villains, who comes to mind? 

For me it was: Darth Vader, Maleficent, The Joker, The Big Bad Wolf, evil step sisters, and Voldermort. 

By any chance, is your husband on that list as well? 

I bet you are thinking…NO WAY! 

I don’t know about you, but there have been times I felt like a victim in my mixed faith marriage. 

Every victim needs a villain.

I blamed my husband for my unhappiness. 

When we are in victim mode we give away all our power.

All I could see were his flaws. 

I saw all the great things I was doing and judged him for the things I thought he should be doing. 

I stopped noticing all the things I loved about him. 

I very unfairly turned the good man who worked so hard for our family into a villain.

It is really hard to understand, connect with or have compassion for a villain. 

There is a reason you didn't marry Voldermort, trust me. 

If you are feeling like a victim, I totally get it. 

It feels so much better going from a victim/villain duo to a couple of superheroes on the same team. 

If you are ready to change the dynamic in your marriage I can help you. 

Let’s chat.

PS We are all in different situations. Being the hero in your story also includes making sure that you are safe and getting the help you need. It may include setting healthy boundaries and making decisions based on what is best in your unique situation.