I love LOVE
Valentine’s is just around the corner and I am getting pretty excited about it. At the first of the month I will hang the hearts in my windows, decorate my mantle, and plan how I want to show my love to my valentines. We always do a special family dinner where I set out my adorable red, white, and pink Fiestaware dishes (I am kind of obsessed with them and grateful my cupboards haven’t fallen off the wall yet. I make a delicious spread that usually involves succulent salmon, hot buttery carbs, and chocolatey lava cakes. I share my well thought out love notes and gifts with my people.
Although they appreciate the food and are thrilled to consume heart shaped Reese’s (let's be honest, who doesn't love Reese’s in any shape), the males in my life don’t really care about Valentines, or any other holiday for that matter. This used to really bum me out until I realized they don’t need to act a certain way for me to feel what I want to feel. So what do I want to feel on Valentine's Day? Well… LOVE!
Let me tell you something about love (and the rest of our emotions). We think love comes from what other people do and say. It doesn’t. Love is an emotion created from our thoughts about what others do and say (or don’t do/say). Love doesn't jump into your body from someone else's body. Nor does the love you feel jump into theirs. When I am thinking loving thoughts about my people and myself, I am the one that gets to feel love and it feels fantastic. Of all the emotions we can feel, I personally think, love feels the very best.
I am all for you sharing your expectations and making requests with your people, but don’t let them ruin your day if they don’t show up the way you were hoping they would. You show up as the loving person you want to be and if they join in on the love, lucky for them.
Happy Valentine’s my loves!
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