How Do You Measure Success?

Let’s talk about success for a minute.

It is easy to base our success as a parent based on what our kids are doing or not doing.

If they are getting good grades, being kind and respectful, following the covenant path then that means we are good parents.

If not, it is easy to think we are failing.

Kid makes good choices = good parent.

Kid rolls eyes, complains, and says bad words (or worse...) = bad parent.

This is all well and good when things are working out, but what about when they are not?

This is not a great way to measure success because we can no more control the choices our kids make than we can control the weather.

It works the same in our marriages and every other part of our lives as well.

We don’t want to measure our success based on the results of others because that is out of our control.

We want to measure ourselves based on how we show up.

Are you showing up as the person you want to be?

Are you acting in accordance with what you value?

Do you respond to your people in ways you are proud of?

(And I’m not talking 100% of the time either because we’re all imperfect humans doing the best we can with what we know.)

Sometimes we measure ourselves against an impossible standard.

How would your life change if you stopped using others' results as your measurement of success?

I am guessing you are doing so much better than you think.
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