Are You Trying To Change Your Loved One?

Our brains are always trying to solve problems.

They do this by asking questions.

When a loved one leaves the church we want to solve the "problem" so we ask ourselves lots of questions.

How can I get this person that I love to make better choices?

How can I get them to see where they are making mistakes?

What can I do to get them to go to church so they can feel the Spirit?

What conference talk can I share that will make them reconsider?

When we do that we are trying to change them.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but we can't change other people.

Instead of wasting your time on trying to fix what is out of your control, I want you to try something different.

Redirect to what you can control.

Try asking these questions instead:

How can I be loving and supportive and still live in alignment with what I believe?

What do I need to do to care for myself?

What support might I need?

How can I grieve this situation and still withhold judgment?

Instead of trying to control them, focus on you.

When you do that, you can show up as the person you want to be.

It feels better, I promise.

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